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New article: How to Make Your Home a Domestic Church

Laura DeMaria

I have a new article up at Catholic Stand, How to Make Your Home a Domestic Church, inspired by my home recently receiving the enthonement of the Sacred Heart of Jesus. Enjoy!

And tomorrow morning, you can catch me on Relevant Radio’s Morning Air program at 7:10 am eastern to discuss one of my classic articles, Accepting God’s Blessings in Your Life. It has been on my mind lately, because I know God’s blessings are something unexpected, or look differently than we might want or expect. But, we are called to accept what God gives us, those things that it is easy to be grateful for, and those that are challenges. Join us tomorrow and learn more!

You can listen live online here or find it on your local radio station.

5 Reasons to Pray

Laura DeMaria

Happy Feast of St. Rose of Lima!

On the heels of yesterday’s conversation about prayer as the antidote to today’s shortened attention spans - shortened primarily by social media use - I came across an article, 5 Relationships That Changed When I Deleted Social Media. The author makes greats points about not only reclaiming her attention and focus and being more in the present, but how her relationships with herself, family, and friends improved. I find the point about her relationship with herself improving particularly interesting. It is worth a read. Do you think you would have a similar experience if you deleted your social media apps?

I was also thinking more about the benefits of prayer overall. It is very much the case that God has designed prayer not just to be something that is supplicative - that will “get” us stuff - but that prayer is also good for us. Here are five reasons to pray:

Prayer strengthens your relationship with God 

This is the primary reason to pray. We are called to have a relationship with Him, which means we must communicate with Him about what is on our heart. Also, it puts us in the disposition to receive what he has to show us.

Prayer centers you and teaches interior stillness; focus 

As discussed yesterday, a fruit of prayer is that interior stillness and focus which then moves into other parts of your life. When I did the 9-month prayer retreat in daily life called the 19th annotation, I was amazed at how my patience increased outside of prayer time. I even began to find value in things like waiting, for example, waiting in line. I was less hurried in the mornings, and less prone to irritation over small inconveniences, and so on.

Prayer is an opportunity to learn humility 

Prayer is often not answered the way we would like it to be answered. D’oh! So, it provides an opportunity to grow in humility and say, thine will be done, Lord, not mine.

Prayer is a way to perform an act for others; cultivate a greater sense of the needs of others 

How accustomed are we to thinking of ourselves above others - pretty much all the time? And that’s natural. Prayer gives us the chance to look outward, instead, by praying for others. I wrote an article about this last year, For Whom Should I Pray? There are many, many people and causes which need YOUR prayers. Your family, your coworkers, people experiencing pain in all forms.

Prayer is a way to cultivate gratitude. The most basic form of prayer is “Thank you, Lord.” Even when you don’t feel like it! 

I think often of what Blessed Solanus Casey said: Thank God ahead of time. I know that every one of us, every day, can think of something to thank God for, even if that is just the fact of being alive. Chances are, there’s so much more in your life, too. And by giving thanks we expand our heart. One of my very original articles at Catholic Stand is on the revelation, Gratitude is a Prayer.

As St. Paul said: pray without ceasing! Form the habit, and let it take the place of something else in your life, like meaningless scrolling. Now get out there and pray!

Reclaim your distracted attention span!

Laura DeMaria

Recently during prayer it came to me that, while I can blame my own social media use for my shortened attention span - which also affects my ability to concentrate during prayer - prayer itself is the answer!

As in, if I spent more time in deep, focused, contemplative prayer that required my attention, then my ability to cultivate focus would grow in other areas of my life.

I spoke about prayer and concentration this morning on the Morning Air Show with John Morales. You can listen to the recap here, starting at minute 12:05.

What we discussed: the inevitability of shortened attention spans in today’s world where one is inundated with notifications, emails, updates, instant news and stock information, and endless scrolling opportunities. The way that technology gets between spouses, and parents and children. And that focused, contemplative prayer time is the antidote, both for lengthening your attention span, and cultivating an overall disposition of patience and interior peace.

John asked an interesting question, which was: how long does this take? My answer: I don’t believe in “hacks” in the spiritual life. It will take as long as it needs to get one back to focus. But, you can, and should, ask God for help here: let Him know what you are trying to do and that you need His help. We also talked about how all of this is a choice. Yes, social media is an addiction. But the first step to reclaiming your mind for yourself is to acknowledge how miserable it makes you, and begin to move.

Specific prayers we talked about: the rosary, lectio divina, and reading the Gospel or another holy text slowly and intentionally. Reclaim your attention span!

Here’s that playback again. I’ll next be back on Tuesday, September 5 around 7:10 am eastern. Talk to you then!