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Lent 2023: time to get out of your own way!

Laura DeMaria

Friends, we are mere hours away from the start of Lent, and I am joining John Morales and the Morning Air crew tomorrow morning to discuss my latest article, Prepare Your Heart for Lent, at 7:10 am eastern. Listen on your local station or open up a browser here.

What I hope to leave listeners with: Lent really is an invitation, not a challenge of personal growth, or even something to be feared or dreaded.

I read an interview with Fr. Mike Schmitz where he advises you choose a penance (if you even want to call it that) that matches YOU - not just a random hard thing to do. He says:

I am a big fan of choosing penances of prayer, fasting and almsgiving that are less arbitrary and more intrinsic to each person's life. What I mean by this is: We often choose a penance based on how “difficult” it seems or on the kind of challenge that it might pose to us.

If a penance seems like it is serious enough (but maybe not too serious), then we might choose it. But often, our penances are not necessarily connected to what we absolutely need. When considering prayer, we can ask: “In what way do I need to grow closer to the Lord?” When considering fasting, we can ask: “What do I need to get rid of in order to be more free to love and serve the Lord?” And when considering almsgiving, we can ask: “Where do I believe that I am called to give or serve?”

This is good advice! And, not only that, you may not even need to “give up” something - you may need to maintain or even add something. That keeps us from becoming vain over weight loss or competitive goals.

So, what are you giving up for Lent? Or, what are you adding? Listen in tomorrow morning for some inspiration, and may you have a truly blessed, fruitful, and introspective Lenten season. Remember - Easter is on the other side!

From a reader: Logging off Lent

Laura DeMaria

Hello everyone,

I was sent an excellent resource from a reader who’s developed a way to help you decrease (really, eliminate) your social media use during Lent. Check out Logging off for Lent. He writes":

“I wanted to share a small project I built: Logging off for Lent (lentlogoff.com). I wanted to provide a small nudge of encouragement to any Christian who wants to give up scrolling on social media for Lent and focus on spiritual disciplines like prayer & fasting during the 40 day interval. To anyone who signs up, I'll be sending out encouraging notes/verses.”

Dare I say getting rid of social media, at any time of year, is the best thing you can do for both your mental health and your relationship with God. Good stuff. Thank you, Mitch!

And while we’re on the topic, if you haven’t read it yet, my latest article is up at Catholic Stand: Prepare Your Heart for Lent. Set your calendar for Tuesday, February 21 at 7:10 am eastern, where I will discuss how to prepare for Lent - which will start the next day, February 22! - on Relevant Radio’s Morning Air program. Find your radio station or listen online here.

Have an excellent Sunday.

New article: Prepare Your Heart for Lent

Laura DeMaria

Friends, Lent is now about 23 days away, and you know what that means! I’m already thinking about it. Read my latest article at Catholic Stand, Prepare Your Heart for Lent, which you can also read below.

By the way, to hear the audio of my appearance last week on Morning Air, listen to the conversation here. I joined John Morales to discuss the 6 new venerable servants of God. Listen to my portion starting at 7:30.

As I mention in the article, I am not at all advocating for getting a head-start on your Lent, or extending your chosen penances and practices. I am advocating, though, for preparation, so that you’re not spending half of Lent deciding what to do, and the next half waiting for the prayer book you finally chose to arrive. No good! You will miss out.

I find Lent to be the deepest Liturgical season. I know Easter is far more important, and joyful; and Advent has its own special feeling of hopeful waiting. But Lent is a real soul-searching time, and we do ourselves a disservice not to take advantage of it. So do it! And prepare now. Then, you will be able to more fully enjoy the celebration come Easter.

Prepare your heart for lent

Lent, which begins with Ash Wednesday on February 22 this year, is just around the corner. Now, before the season starts, is the time to start cultivating an interior disposition so that you can fully meet Jesus during that time.

Practical preparation

“What are you going to ‘do’ this Lent?” is always the question we ask each other.
If you decide on your Lenten course of action well in advance of the season, you set yourself up for success. Spending too much time deciding what you will “do” once Lent starts will cause you to miss out on the opportunity to hear and meet Jesus in this incredibly rich liturgical time. You will also have time to plan and prepare: to buy the book you’re going to read and to organize your schedule to allow for prayer or volunteer time.

Mental Preparation

But have you thought about how you will prepare yourself mentally, as well? Entering into prayer is similar: use the first five or ten minutes to remove all the mental noise and distractions. Then, once your mind is calmed, the voice of God will be easier to hear.

Likewise, use the days before Lent to intentionally orient yourself to the upcoming season of penance. As Lent approaches, use your prayer time leading up to Lent to talk to God about what He wants to show you this Lenten season.

Begin to cultivate real silence in your life. Rely less on your phone to fill your time, turn off the TV, and notice when you automatically turn to a podcast or music to fill the silence.

Adopt less self-critical, or other-critical, ways of thinking and speaking. Habits of criticizing arguably generate the worst “noise” in our lives.

Spend time thinking specifically about the purpose of Lent. Do you see these 40 days just as a time of self-deprivation or as an invitation?

I am not recommending starting Lent early, and by all means, give your Fat Tuesday celebration all you’ve got. But “warming up” for Lent through this kind of intentional self-examination can make a big difference in your attitude during the real thing. Lent is a great gift for Catholics. Use it!

How will I spend this Lent?

Traditional Lenten activities tend to fall into one of three categories: prayer, fasting, or service. Are you reading a spiritual book, spending a certain amount of time in prayer each morning, or volunteering at your crisis pregnancy center?

A few years ago, I interviewed a range pf people on their Lenten “plan,” from giving up manicures to writing people hand-written notes. View that article, “Rethinking Lent this Year,” and see if any of their ideas resonate with and inspire you.

You may also want to reach out to your priest or spiritual director to get guidance on how you, in this time and place, will be best served by a particular Lenten practice or practices. 


A Word of advice

A word of advice to the faithful and those trying their best: please do not view Lent and the choices you make as a race or competition. A temptation exists to view our ability to give up things, for example, as owing to our own physical strength or stamina. That’s not even the point! Be wary of how pride or vanity could creep into your Lent, if you are giving up things to prove to others or yourself that you can.

What we’re trying to do when we give up things is to make room in our life for Jesus and to remember His sacrifice. The physical discomfort of Lent reminds us of Christ’s suffering. By clearing out the “stuff” – the noise, the time-wasting behavior, the self-judgment, the sin, the sweets – our hearts and souls are able to more clearly recognize Jesus.

Another word of advice is to choose your Lenten activities because they speak to you, personally. That is most likely where God is calling you. Don’t want to feed the homeless? Okay, don’t. Call up your lonely neighbor instead, or read Cardinal Sarah, or try lectio divina, among many other possibilities.

Embrace the discomfort for these 40 days (minus Sundays). Don’t think too much about it. Ultimately, Lent is a time to follow God more closely, to hear His voice, and finally, to rejoice in the triumph of His love for this world.